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[Lukus]

Relationship hilarity time!

And lo, on the 27th of febuary, it came to pass that the Lukester is, once more, forever alone. Once again, I join the ranks of single males procrastinating on the internet. It’s been quite a while since I was here, yet in a weird way it feels like I’ve never left.

While this decision was long in the making, it went off today like an atom bomb and I’m all out of RadAway. I posted a hint behind closed doors about the events leading up to this point, in the marble halls of the Senate (to which I somehow still have access, mysteriously). I did so as my relationship came ever so close to an end on the 21st, which is what delayed the time-honored tallying of the Order Awards. It came ever so close, but it didn’t end then. We thought there was still hope. Instead, it ended today, at approximately 15:45, local time.

Me and my now ex girlfriend have had it rough for the past half year. The crappiness has alternated with complete fucking amazingness – which is why we’ve both persisted for so long (due to the amazingness part, that is). But today, I thought to myself, like I’ve done many times before: “Here but no further”. And today, I could finally muster the courage to speak out those finalizing words, terminating the relationship. Though determined not to cry, the words came out as a poor excuse of a whimper, but I spoke them nonetheless. I had tried before, on the 21st, with a prepared pitch and everything. On the 21st however, I came to a halt before I could say “…and for these reasons, we are no longer together”. I just couldn’t do it. I love her so fucking much. As I was nearing that sentence today I broke down, had to excuse myself, to return a few minutes later. But today I could say it. “We can’t be together anymore.” After I finally managed to whisper that out, we exchanged a few short words. A few, single tears fell to the floor – we have already cried more than enough before. She left the apartment five minutes later. What happens now, I just don’t know. I think she's swinging by tomorrow. She'll be out of here permanently in 2 months at the earliest. Joy.

As I posted on facebook: We corresponded excellently in almost every aspect, and shared virtually everything (including our mutual home) – yet we fell to trivial divergence. At times like these it’s ironically soothing to be a cynical atheist; expecting nothing more, and having no faith to lose.
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[Brother None]

Sucks dude. Mutual home makes it even harder. But what's gotta be done has gotta be done. Much strength, man.

[Crni Vuk]

how comes you and yamu have kicked your girl recently.

Anyway. Sorry to hear about it. But yeah. What BN said.

[Sander]

Sucks, man. But if that's what had to be done, it's the right thing to do. Postponing it only prolongs the suck.

One piece of advice that worked for me: try to separate your daily goings-on as much as possible while still living together after breaking up. Like, stop eating together and things like that - but communicate whatever problems there are.
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[verevoof]

Good luck. You an Yamu are like breakup buddies. You two should have a TV show.
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[Daimyo]

Thinking of you, Luke

Sincerely Yours, Daimyo.


Seriously though; sorry to hear that, but perhaps it is for the best in the long run, eh?

Cry your tears, voice your regrets and move on, albeit slowly but surely.
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[Kilus]

[Prosatanos]

Hey bro,I don't know you personally but i know the feeling and only thing that i have to say is ,sometimes shit happens and it's hurt. But keep your head UP. Good luck & May the force be with you.
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[Sicblades]

[Dirk Magirk]

So does this mean that you can be Battle Master for The Battles now Luke?

Sorry to hear about things coming to a head, though from the sounds of things this was in everyone's best interests. As Sic said, you will be mounted and ridden away into the sunset in no time! Carry on Sir Luke.
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[Serifan]

Fuck Luke that sucks man chin up mate there are plenty more fish in the sea.

So what happened why the break up? Don't tell me she only likes guys with foreskin.
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[Jebus]

Man Luke, that sucks. I never thougt you were actually going to do it, I thought it was a "My wife doesn't understand me"-kind of thing to try and get one of us into your bed.
What's happened? I remember something about an obnoxious friend of hers - or was it an ex? Does he have something to do with it? Or did you just drift apart or somesuch?

How long have you been together? Three years or so?

[clercqer]

Sorry to hear about your pains Lukeman. Sorry you had to let such a pwetty green-eyed lass go too.

Lots of strength and a quick recovery to you.
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[Lukus]

[TorontRayne]

^ From the way you described things it may be for the best. I would be very wary of a woman with close ties to another male "friend". In my experience it turns out bad. My ex fucked her friend who she said was like a brother to her. I guess some people fuck their brothers.
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[Yamu]

I was just drafting up a post saying that if you thought this is how it needed to be, then you probably did the right thing. Now that I've read up on the situation, I'm sure you did the right thing. Call me a puritanical American prude, but aside from declaring it an open relationship, there really wasn't any other way to respond. You don't gather ingredients like she was unless you're intending to bake a cake (or to spite someone who told you to stay out of the kitchen-- either way, bad mojo). For the record, none of that sounds like "little drama" to me-- any single one of the things leading up to this would've been a dealbreaker for a lot of guys, amazing relationship or not. You're a better man than I am. I'd probably be more angry than sorrowful right now.

I'm probably not helping, though. I'm glad you enjoyed your time together, as I'm sure you are, or will be once you're through the roughest part of this. I hope you both take something positive away from it. And for the time being, I wish you strength and inner peace, dude. Peace, most of all.
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[Jebus]

I see.

Well, it's a good a reason to be unhappy in a relationship as another, I guess. It's all down to how you feel, after all, and it's impossible for other people to form any kind of judgment about that. Not their place, either.

I can't really relate- but that's probably because I have self-esteem issues (as in: way too much of it). My g/f often (way too often, probably) remarks that it's unfair that I'm the only one she ever had sex with, and every time we have an argument she yells that she wants an open relationship. Yet I'm not worried in the least. I probably should, though. Yet I can't. I have no idea how I work.

Luke, dude, I feel for you. I really do. I can sort of imagine what you're going through - I went to something similar once - yet because it's so long ago (nine years) I only have the faintest memory of it. But I am damn sure that it changed me for the rest of my life. A major part of who I am formed the last time I had my heart broken - half a year of pure and utter misery will do that to your personality. I hope you fare better, dude. If you need anything, just ask. Naked images of myself will be provided on simple request.

I don't normally do this - since I absolutely hate it when people do it to me - but here's some unsollicited advice: don't be so open about this kind of stuff in your next relationship. Sure, talking about fantasies you have about someone else than eachother is not earthshattering in itself, but as you hinted at it sows the seeds for a lot of disquiet when she actually spends time alone with that person. You say she'd never cheat on you - I'll take your word for it - but still it's hard to supress the thought of the possibility of it happening entering your head. And jealousy - however you rationalise it away - will always lead to unhappiness.

I, for instance, would not tell my g/f anything about any sexual attraction I would ever even faintly feel towards any other person than those completely unattainable (like Scarlet Johansson for instance), since I'm fairly sure she'd turn into a jealous harpy. She often tells me when she finds someone hot, but I don't seem to mind much (all people she found hot until now have without exception been gay, so there's not much to worry about anyway). (That reminds me, I need to start a poll about something.)
I am 100% sure, though, that if she was actually majorly attracted to someone atainable who she spent a lot of time alone with, I would be jealous. Just like you are, I guess. Wait, now I'm contradicting what I said earlier. I'm confusing myself. I have no idea how I work.

Ehm... As I was saying: ehm... What was I saying? Oh yeah: too much honesty can also be bad for a relationship. Especially about sexual things regarding other people. That's it.

[Dead Guy]

I can't really bring myself to be afraid that my girl will cheat on me either, though it has very little to do with my self esteem. I don't know why, I love her and I don't want to lose her. I guess if she's gonna do that, then there's not much to save, you know? In the end it's just a really shitty way to break up the way I see it, because I'd never stay with a girl who cheated on me even once. I can't go around worrying about her breaking up with me and I can't worry about this.

Sorry you lost her Luke, or rather, sorry she couldn't respect your feelings enough to not flirt with another guy. What the hell? I'd understand if you'd asked her not to spend time with an old friend of hers because you were jealous, but this is weird.

And I think Jebus is right, this total openness may sound good in theory (not really), but in reality, people get hurt even if it's not really the rational reaction.
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