How stella lost her groove

[Starseeker]

Published June 27, 2005

In a tale rich in lost love, closeted secrets and acrimonious divorce, it turns out that famed San Francisco writer Terry McMillan -- her celebrated romance and subsequent marriage to a man 23 years her junior became the subject of her fictionized best-seller "How Stella Got Her Groove Back" -- actually got her groove back with a man who now says he's gay.

The story is spilling out in made-for-Hollywood detail in Contra Costa County Superior Court, where McMillan has filed for divorce from her Jamaican-born husband of six years, Jonathan Plummer.

McMillan, 53, said in court documents that the marriage was based on a "fraud" because Plummer lied about his sexual orientation -- and married her only to gain U.S. citizenship.

Plummer, 30, countered in court papers of his own that McMillan has turned on him with a "homophobic" vengeance. He wants to void the couple's prenuptial agreement.

In an interview, Plummer insisted that he didn't know he was gay when he met McMillan in June 1995.

 

[welsh]

Dude, first three years of college, I only dated older women. There is a lot to be said for maturity.

Hate to say it but the marriage did last a few years and "stella did get her groove back." Sucks that the guy discovered he was gay. Maybe the marriage was a fraud- people will go to great lengths to get a green card.

Or perhaps the Republicans are right and being gay is contagious, and it was all San Francisco's fault.

 

[Bradylama]

I hated How Stella Got Her Groove Back, so this is like some increadibly rich comedic irony.

Also Welsh, while there isn't much to be said against dating older women, you wouldn't actually have married someone 20 years older than you, would you? =/

 

[welsh]

No actually my wife is a few years younger.

But- hey you got older guys marrying young chicks all the time. This used to piss me off when I had to compete with older (more established) guys for girls.

Shouldn't women get the same privs?

Ok, so arguably the guy attracts the younger girl because he's got better money, more success, more accomplishment, more confidence, and perhaps more intellect and maturity.

Older women have a problem because most guys are not attracted to those values. For us it's mostly about attractiveness, and a woman 20 years older... chances are that rose is beginning to fade.

 

[Bradylama]

I've always found well-established, mature women to be very attractive. Pam Grier for instance? Rowr.

I still have enough sense to tell when I'd be taken advantage of, however, and to know that I'd rather have someone to grow old with instead of someone that has a head start.