Here is my load order...
...here is my load order in new vegas recently, I used to have a few various other mods on my previous hdd but I found out they were taken off the site when I first reinstalled NV kinda recently, even a couple that had several thousand unique downloads and such, too bad. I don't like big overhaul mods, also there are several mods I actually installed that aren't described here because they are just loose files and such, like I also have NMCs texture pack and several other texture replacers that aren't described here.
Also the game doesn't crash often either, believe it or not. I had some issues early on but I think they were worked out, if not I can't tell much anyway. The game still crashes sometimes, but I guess what I mean to say is not often for newer Fallouts and also not often for how many plugins I have installed, it's really very stable with a few minor bugs but nothing too serious so far.
Edit again: The only things that really annoy me are, Increased Wasteland Spawns (IWS) I believe, caused crashes and is also glitchy. And also, I had issues with weapons correctly spawning in peoples inventories but I think that was sorted out, I never used the weapon mod management thing you can download on the nexus though.
Edit again: Also, I would very very highly recommend using the New Vegas 4gb utility. It basically stopped 95% of crashes from occurring in my game when I first started using it a while ago. Almost necessary IMHO when using lots of mods; launch the game with the 4gb launcher.
Edit again, sorry: Also, a mod that I would never play the games without either NV or 3, would be no auto aim... it makes long range fighting actually doable and removes the crazy upward point of impact in the guns past 30m or something along those lines. Tested game with and without and I would not play it without it, just saying it made that much difference in the gameplay for me. Also, some people on the mod site said that mod is a cheat, which I have to disagree with. It seems like a required fix to me.
FalloutNV.esm
DeadMoney.esm
LonesomeRoad.esm
HonestHearts.esm
GunRunnersArsenal.esm
CaravanPack.esm
Caliber.esm
CaliberXhonesthearts.esm
CaliberXgunrunners.esm
NPC Project.esm
NVR-Strip.esm
ELECTRO-CITY - CompletedWorkorders.esm
NSkies - Vanilla Edition.esm
Cannabis.esm
Military NV Backpacks.esm
OutfitsReColorNVMaster.esm
NVInteriors_Core.esm
NVInteriors_ComboEdition.esm
D.E.I.M.O.S..esm
Badlands.esm
IWS-Core.esm
rePopulated Wasteland.esm
Military Explansion Program.esm
FO3 Face Presets.esp
Further3rdPersonCamera.esp
UsableCigarettes.esp
Primm_Rumor_Fix.esp
Radio Free Wasteland.esp
CONELRAD 640-1240.esp
MojaveExtended40.esp
K3KDefaultHardcoreSilent.esp
NewVegasBountiesII.esp
silent-ede.esp
SunnyCompanion.esp
GrimyBusinesswearFix.esp
Motorcycle Replacer_Beta_V2.esp
AmmoCraftingSchematics.esp
ACS-CaliberX.esp
TGL.esp
starting_eyeglasses.esp
Sunglasses Shipment.esp
Sunglasses Shipment - Four Eyes.esp
GoodspringsFarmhouse_v1.2.esp
CornucopiaGroceryStore.esp
UHNV.esp
UHNV-Honest Hearts.esp
UHNV-Dead Money.esp
UHNV-Lonesome Road.esp
HDTshop.esp
populatedcasino.esp
NPC Project - Freeside.esp
Bitter Springs Revisited.esp
IWS-Core-Patrols.esp
IWS-Core-Civilians.esp
IWS-Core-Guards.esp
IWS-HH.esp
IWS-LR.esp
IWS-DM.esp
NVR-Version_10.esp
NVR-NPCs.esp
Assassin Freq21.esp
Starke's Seperate Chinese Stealth Armor Helmet NV.esp
Realistic Power Armor.esp
Classic APA.esp
Classic Advanced Power Armor.esp
RasRepairAll.esp
NVNightVision.esp
LightMG.esp
Walther P99.esp
HK MP7.esp
HK PSG-1 Snipers.esp
Enhanced Sniper Rifle.esp
DoubleBarrelShotgun.esp
MaresLeg.esp
MP412REX.esp
Mateba.esp
PancorJH.esp
M37Ithaca.esp
Remington870SO.esp
M14.esp
Uzi.esp
Glock Pack.esp
HHWeapsInNVNPC.esp
HHWeapsInNV.esp
Mossberg590.esp
10mmPistol-SigSaur_Replacement_v1.0.esp
AK_AR15WP.esp
OutfitsReColorNV.esp
OutfitsReColorChangeClothes.esp
LFox Bottle That Water.esp
dD - Enhanced Blood Main NV.esp
EnergyWeaponDeNerf.esp
NV Explosive Knockdown mod.esp
realistic headshots.esp
noautoaim.esp
Follower Home Marker.esp
Companion Sandbox Mode.esp
dressup.esp
BetterGamePerformanceV4.esp
Readius_NV.esp
PipBoyLight.esp
pipboyx4.esp
Max Level 100.esp
XFO - 6aa - Epic Skills - Effects Over 100 (NVSE req).esp
Vurt's WFO.esp
Fellout.esp
Total active plugins: 106
Total plugins: 111