Would you like people to be afraid of you?

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DirtyDreamDesigner

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I had this question on my army psych exam years ago and I remembered it yesterday for some reason. Back than it made me think and I'm still not sure about the answer.

So... would you like people to be afraid of you?
 
Yes, but it'd get boring after a while.

Besides. Who says people aren't already afraid of me? "You scare me" is one of the things most girls tell me. Right after "I'd never have sex with you".
 
Yeah, definitely. Tremble, miserable humans!

Although I have already been told I'm scary several times, I would like to hear that regularly. That makes me feel comfortable.

Diagnosis?
 
I think I would feel more confident if I knew I make an intimidating first impression. The type of: wow, don't mess with him. I wouldn't want that impression to last though. But I think it can come in handy.
Don't see a lot of gain in people being afraid of you. People tend to avoid you if they're scared of you; people tend to dislike scary things... So definatly 'intimidating' instead of 'scary'.
 
No, it would result into lonelyness and al the people would be too afraid of you and never will want to be true friend with you.
Living alone is scary, and friends are important as they help to shape one's life.
 
If you ask me, it's better when people are afraid of you than when they are indifferent towards you, because fear implies a degree of respect. Still, a person who intimidates everyone around him probably doesn't have a lot of friends, so if I had to choose between being feared and being liked, I'd choose the latter.
 
If people are afriad of you, you dont need friends... because the weaker ones would likey kiss your ass and do anything you tell them to... you could make your corner of the world quite comfortable... and you dont have to intimadate EVERYONE....
 
A qualified yes.

People I respect and care about do not fear me (Usually), and I am glad they do not.

However, I am quite capable of exerting the influence and force required to make certain individuals fear me, which I do when required.

Many times, because of my slight size, my pleasent demenor (Yes, I can be quite pleasant) and my soft tone of voice, people I randomly encounter do not tend to be alarmed or fearful of me.

On the occassions where I am not attempting to be a pleasant person however, I do tend to make people uncomfortable, insulted, unsettled and fearful, and many comrades with broken fingers or noses, dislocated limbs and ribs and heavy bruising can attest to my short temper and ability to exert violence in sudden and prolonged bursts when required.
 
There are different types of fear, which a distinction that should be made. In thinking of the people who are most attractive/gravitational, there is always a slight element of fear within the relationship; either you want them to think well of you or you are afriad of them because they are intimidatingly good-looking/smart/funny. If it were those things that caused people to be afraid of me, I think the answer would be yes.
 
I had a principal at, I guess it must bee junior high, once who was a fat short old bearded man, who none the less had this enourmus natural authority, if he had been in the army he would have been a general or something.

No matter who you where, you were allways polite in his precence, you allways showed respect, just because he had this precence that inspired respect.

He teached in my class three times, and my class had this reputation to be one of the noisiest at the school and in every class you could hear the drop of a pin. No matter how big a mouth people had and not matter how though they thought they were, noone could keep that in his precence. It went with the teachers as well his rule was absolute. That is the kind of natural authority I would like to have.
 
I would prefer that people were not afraid of me. Fear is awfully anti-social.

I'm a pretty big fellow- 6ft plus and over 200lbs. I have discovered that more than a few women are scared of me, simply because I am very big (and not because I tortured them).

That said, not many men hit on my spouse because they are afraid that I will kill them. This actually has a positive side consequences. For those who doubt that I will carry through, I remind them that I keep a tree shredder aimed over a pond full of fish just to make sure the body never gets found. Acid also works, but I find that afterwards you really have to clean the tub or it burns the crap out of the bottom of your feet.

That said, I am afraid of my wife. I suspect that she will eventually kill me with a knife in a fit of wild Latino fury.

But I like that danger. It's kind of sexy in kinky ways.
 
yes and no. I wouldn't like people to avoid me for any reason, but at the same time it seems kinda cool to have people fear you when you walk around the streets.
 
Isn't this just a reiteration of Macchiavelli's feared vs loved argument?

Anyways, not a soul fears me, but most who know me, irl or on the internet respect me, so I guess I have no basis of comparison and will stick with the whole respect/love thing.

Then again, when women respect you hey don't seem to want to sleep with you. Perhaps I shoud start killing small animals and Belgians so I can get laid. :?:
 
Then again, when women respect you hey don't seem to want to sleep with you. Perhaps I shoud start killing small animals and Belgians so I can get laid.
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I get the same treatment, as far as I know no one is scared or frightened of me, but it doesn't seem to get me anywhere.

But it does work when I get angry because I don't get angry that often and people seem to do as I say. Or maybe that was a dream...

Cheers,
The Duckman
 
I don't want fear from others. That's easy. I want them begging to kill themselves for me. Now that is power.

I did horribly on my army psych eval, nearly cost me my top secret clearance :)

Luckilly I was able to get re-evalled since my first psych eval was over 4 years old at the time.
 
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