Elissar, I have had a couple of friends who were gay here, and none were lispy 12 year old girl-types. In fact, I think these guys generally looked down on those types of homosexuals.
One was an African-American guy- probably the most down to earth and genuine person in my program.
Another was a closet case republican christian who was really fucked up by being in the closet and did his best to hid it.
The third was an openly promiscuous gay male who was very into gay rights and the gay community but rapidly disliked the 12 year old girl, speaks with a lisp, flaming "fags" as he called them.
And the fourth you wouldn't know was gay if you were sitting down, drinking with him at a bar. Genuinely cool guy.
Gays come in all shapes and sizes and most of them you wouldn't spot.
Interestingly, one of the big divides in the gay community is between those who want to be seen as "just like anyone else" conformists, and those who flaunt as distinct the "gay culture" as a sign of uniqueness. Even within the gay community there are divisions.