I just used the default FemShep myself. It was funny watching Kaidan's fail attempts at flirting with his commanding officier, but Jacob in ME2 takes the cake for the most awkward romance dialog ever. I was surprised to hear he (Jacob) was written by a woman. Also, I find the Dragon Age character editor (for both games) much more suited to avoiding uncanny valley, fot both male and female. I think the character I created in DA2 is the first oone to ever look better than the default.