welsh said:Ok, Tone, let me simplify this-
Two people want to get married. One group gets the right because one of is composed of a man and a woman. The other does not because they are of the same sex. One group gets its rights, the other does not.
This is fair?
Everybody has the right to marry someone of the opposite gender. This right is denied to no one.
welsh said:And the notion that homosexuality is a choice is highly debated and often dismissed. From what I have seen of the lives of the homosexuals I know, I doubt they would have freely chosen to be members of a minority class.
If we are able to say that some homosexuals are gay because of genetics, that discriminating them because of their genetically predisposed desires is unfair.
If we are able to say they are chosing their lifestyle, then we are affording them a special status based on something that is deviant.
welsh said:ALternatively, we can do what you suggest. Gay people do marry people of the other gender for a variety of reasons, and often the marriage ends badly when one or the other realizes that "oh well, guess I like my own kind better."
Then they shouldn't get married. There are lots of people who never get married. Whether or not they're gay, I don't know, but I know some who I would most definitely say aren't gay. Marriage by itself is not an entitlement. If you don't meet the right person you don't-then you don't get married. If the right person is of the same gender and you persue that, that's your choice, but don't force me to recognize it as marriage. It's not, and 11 states recently backed me on that.
welsh said:So the only way you would allow gays to marry is if that was a fraud? That's a solution to this?
Come on Tone, what pisses you off is that you see a sacrament being jeopardized by a bunch of queers.
Or is it that you don't want others, or don't believe others can share the same kind of relationship you have with your wife just because the person has a different sexual preference?
Because I believe marriage is ordained of God to be between a man and a woman. Sure, scoff at my religious beliefs, because I know it will happen but remember, the majority voted with me. Does this make me right, no, not by itself, but I have a right to vote how I feel...and I did.
welsh said:But so many marriages don't work and we allow them. What about a marriage between two people who love and are committed to each other? Do you want to deny them their relationship because of the type of sexual organs they were born with?
Marriage is not the prerequisite for a relationship...I don't see where you guys are picking this up from. I'm not denying them a relationship, they can have that, I just won't recognize it as marriage.
welsh said:ANd this notion that civil rights is about the things you can't choose is not right. People have civil rights in the way they want to raise their family, the religions they get to practice, the things they get to think, the secrets they keep, usually their thoughts and their speech and the people they form associations with. PEople have civil rights in their source of political ideas, in their willingness to protest or not protest, their right to vote or not vote.
The right to practice religion is guaranteed by the constitution, why I mentioned it. Civil rights on how they want to raise their families? How does this apply here? One minute your talking specifically about "civil rights" and how they protect the minority, now your talking about "unalienable rights". Sure there is a connection but you're diluting your definition of civil rights.
welsh said:Civil rights is based on that fundamental principle of democracy- the rights of individual to choose, and protecting those rights.
That's why the gay marriage amendment is being sponsored. Under the constitution there is a risk that the laws against gay marriage will be tossed out. The amendment would therefore restrict the rights of individuals one of the most fundamental rights under substantive due process- the right to choose who you wish to have a partnership with.
An amendment against gay marriage denies no one rights. The right of an individual to marry a person of the opposite gender is, as it has been, still extended to all.
welsh said:Do I understand where Tone is coming from- yes. There needs to be a line drawn and it has to be clear. IT is always that way when it comes down to civil rights in this country. A murky line opens up more litigation and legal contest, where a clear line ideally defines the boundaries between the rights of the individual and the need of society to impose a social order of its' choosing.
Do I agree with Tone? No. But I understand what he is saying. Let's call my response to some critics that have been saying I am too harsh on the religious conservatives (like Lauren and Sander).
I am not unsympathetic for his desire for a line of standards to be drawn. But I am unsympathic to where he, and other religious conservatives, wish to draw that line. He is being more conservative, I am being more liberal.
We have a gay marriage thread elsewhere here. Go back and look at it before you try to tear me to pieces. This has been an thoughtful discussion thus far. Don't turn it into a chain of personal attacks and ruin it.
I'd love to go back and peruse other threads, but keeping up with you and Ashmo is keeping me quite busy. When do I get to call in reinforcements :
Anyway, I'll keep giving it some effort...probably tomorrow though.