Do you find it hard to be social?

Sn1p3r187

Sn1p3r187

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To be honest. No I don't find it one bit hard to be social, more or less with me it's a choice of not being social. I know I can be pretty damn social and exude charisma when the time calls for it or if I actually wanted to interact with everyone in school or outside of it on a deeper level then what I let myself know or what they let me choose to know. But lately I've been feeling semi-lazy to want to socialize with anyone in my classes or on the bus when I said this year being more on the social was what I was working for. Though I will admit, it's hard to relate with anyone when you're polar opposites or you have completely different set of likes and dislikes then the person you talk with. And it makes it hard to relate with some people when you find yourself running on empty on what to talk about with them or what they do like. Do any of you find it hard to be social?​
 
I am a introvert, I enjoy spending time with friends but I actively need my alone time. Altho I never go out of my way to make friends, I say the smaller the group the better.
 
Walpknut said:
I am a introvert, I enjoy spending time with friends but I actively need my alone time. Altho I never go out of my way to make friends, I say the smaller the group the better.
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Well true that. But for me I like to give some people I potentially like a chance.
 
Well, i don't know about you. But i actually do have a form of autism called Asperger, High Functioning autism. Beyond that i'm introvert and mostly a loner.

Though, i'm able to have that sort of charismatic charm when talking to people face to face. Other than that, i often practice with make up in my own time alone, girl stuff, Or watch videos or play video games.
 
Sn1p3r187 said:
Walpknut said:
I am a introvert, I enjoy spending time with friends but I actively need my alone time. Altho I never go out of my way to make friends, I say the smaller the group the better.
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Well true that. But for me I like to give some people I potentially like a chance.
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Well, I don't shun people, I just never actively look to make friends, it's jsut something that isn't on my mind most times. I tried to force myself to do it in college and it all resulted in me "befriending" some rather shitty people so now I just let it happen naturaly.
 
Walpknut said:
Sn1p3r187 said:
Walpknut said:
I am a introvert, I enjoy spending time with friends but I actively need my alone time. Altho I never go out of my way to make friends, I say the smaller the group the better.
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Well true that. But for me I like to give some people I potentially like a chance.
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Well, I don't shun people, I just never actively look to make friends, it's jsut something that isn't on my mind most times. I tried to force myself to do it in college and it all resulted in me "befriending" some rather shitty people so now I just let it happen naturaly.
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You know strange thing, that actually happened to me when I was in 9th grade. But it was rather me and my best friend and I followed the path of my best friend and had to put up with the shitty people he hung around.
 
TransgenderVaultDeweller said:
Well, i don't know about you. But i actually do have a form of autism called Asperger, High Functioning autism.
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I'm betting a lot of forum-people have Asperger's, but it is bad form to "accuse" people of it, or make speculations (not implying you did it, but I kindov just did it, despite really disliking doing it.. )
I got my diagnosis in my mid 20s, and ever since I have been pretty fine and dandy socially, I got the social interaction I need.

Before that though, I was much more confused, and tried so hard to keep up, form networks, make friends, but apart from some "core" besties I never managed to keep any new friend I made. I find hanging out to be draining, especially "going to town", like nightclubs and such.
Every rare now and then I will have a spur of adventurousness, and go explore the social world. Among my favorite social escapades are sudden road-trips with friends, as well as a local rock/rap/alternative festival in a lil ghetto-corner here, where I stroll around just having fun observing the madness, content in my role as an "outside observer"
 
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I used to be pretty shy and introverted, but after some inspiration I now have the simple mind-set of: Dont give a fuck what anyone else thinks about you.

Pretty happy with life now y'know?
 
Fall Out Boy said:
I used to be pretty shy and introverted, but after some inspiration I now have the simple mind-set of: Dont give a fuck what anyone else thinks about you.

Pretty happy with life now y'know?
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I never gave much of a fuck to begin with. That's why the choice of not being social is there vs the choice of being it. But real not giving a fuck is not caring what anyone thinks of you in any social situation if they like you or not, and I think I do well there too.
 
When I was a kid I found it hard to be social, but facing reality and developing maturity quickly made me into a very social person - my career depends on it, and nowadays it's just a basic necessity for me to be interacting with people as much as possible. Eventually you'll realize 99% of the good things in life come directly from being around other people and actively socializing with them, whether it's important stuff like networking opportunities, or just things that you enjoy or make you grow as a person like how spending an afternoon with a group of people can lead to you setting up a basketball game for Friday, and after the game you go to grab a drink and have fun together, then at the bar you meet the person you'll end up dating for a while, and you'll eventually break up but that's fine because somebody else you met through that person is now your best friend, and the two continue to have awesome moments with that original group of friends which dynamically changes through time, and perhaps leads all those involved into new interests, activities, paths... you catch my drift, right? Socializing is both the spice of life and the main serving. Of course, you can live with just talking to people every now and then and otherwise keeping to yourself; I also have times I like to be alone. Like during a meal, it's just the time I have to think to myself and keep quiet for a bit. But it's clear to me that everybody can benefit from expanding their horizons and creating new social situations for themselves and those around them.
 
Akratus said:
I went to the dutch gamergate meetup and I was the only one who made the whole room laugh. And I did it multiple times!

Among normies, I am awkward.

BUT IN THIS WORLD I AM GOD.

BOW TO ME NERDS! BOWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!
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Oh, oh, oh, I did provoke a public mass-laughter once :D
No point in re-telling it, cus "you shoulda been there" type, but it was a big out-door crowd, I was just another crowdie, there was a moment just asking for a funny, and I delivered and got public chuckles!
Man, I felt awesome!
I'm pretty sure that my dialect also added to the funny, as they sometimes might, but yeah, a good moment! :D
 
Yes and no.

Yes, because I have a speech impediment, I am slightly autistic with Asperger's Syndrome, and quite honestly, I just cannot stand people. Humans are naturally conflicted creatures. Humans are naturally selfish, and given the global destruction we are causing to the Earth, I have a good reason to resent my own species, and I cannot blame some people for being misanthropic.

No, because I am able to communicate with the people I care about without any sort of verbal struggle.
 
I am not within the autism spectrum, I just took on the introverted nature of my mom. She is also the loner type.
 
For a Finn, I'd like to think I'm pretty social. Which isn't all that social necessarily. Anyway, I haven't had the best possible times in my past few years, and especially in the past 6 months. Also the town I live in doesn't really offer much in the way of social stuff. I often travel to a bigger town about 100 km away to socialise with my study buddies that I still keep in touch with.
 
I do OK in social settings, when I have to put up with them, but prefer to avoid that crap and people altogether.

Last time I socialized--outside of putting up with people at work--was when I got dragged to a New Years Eve party last year. This is me in a nutshell:



I'm a dyed-in-the-wool misanthrope frankly. I have no love or trust for the rest of the species, honestly, and try to steer clear of them as much as humanly possible. No pun intended.

I don't have friends only "acquaintances", I don't date, and I'm perfectly happy keeping to myself.

Yet when I have to socialize, I do all right and get along fine. Go figure.
 
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Bubba Zanetti,

good taste in stand up comedians you have, just the other day I watched the Bill Hicks - documentary they made, the longer version. Good stuff, sad he died so young.
 
Being introverted in Latin America is particulary annoying, culture here is about everybody being on everybody's grill and being loud.
 
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