Generic Birthday thread (they ALL go in here)

It has been such a long time since this post has been updated that the last post on it is from myself from a year ago.

I am a bit late with this as I was rather tired yesterday (haven't slept well these last couple of days), but yesterday/Wednesday was my birthday, I have entered my forties now.

At the one side it doesn't feel that different and technically it isn't but it is still strange to think that basically half your life is over and that some of the things you remember are now almost half a century or a quarter of a century in the past.
I had a talk about it with my sister on the phone and I brought up examples such as changes in the Dutch street image such as for example that all telephone boots are gone but also media, comparing changes in games with changes in music (my sister does not like video games but she enjoys music).
Stuff that feels for me "recent" is actually sometimes five years or even ten years old.

I remember a while back talking with someone who is a lot younger than me about various media such as movies, series, and games and he asking me about subjects I thought would be relatively well known as some of it was even from the 2000s but I forgot that he only became a teen during the 2010's so even that history feels like it was from before his time.
It is kind of sad to know that developments and events that took place in that time that still affect us today are partly unknown for a lot of young people today, they only ever experienced the aftermath or consequences.

Have I done anythings special that day? Not really as it is a common work day for most people so not much could be planned, plus I have no direct friends or family living close to me who could do anything.
I did get of course get happy birthday wishes from friends and family and my brother and sister would like to come over in November to properly celebrate it by going out with me and do some fun activities and have a dinner (I would like to try Mexican food for a change)
I am still trying to think of what would be fun to do and have been looking at a variety of sort of party games or live theater games I guess I could call them such as Escape Room, a game in which the participants become amateur detectives and need to investigate and solve a crime, or plan a bake heist and other such activities you normally don't do.
I am also looking at activities like karting, laser game, or bowling as I want to find something that all three of us will enjoy.


I hope this post will revive the thread again. It would be a bit disappointing if I return a year from now and see that this was the last post on it.

My major birthday wishes? Well actually pretty much the ones from the last couple of years along with the wish that I could finally be able to get some discipline.
Biggest wish of course still is to be a good artist or to make a video game similar to the ones I enjoy the most.
 
Hello all,

It is my birthday today or at least was on the 23th of October when I started writing this.
While I knew it was my birthday this week I had not really prepared for it. There was not anything special I wanted to do celebrate it or anything specific I really would like to get for myself (well a new PC but that lies a bit more complex, I have saved up for it but I don't know what setup to go for) that I normally would postpone because of the price or other reasons.
I also did not contact any of the people I know to tell them that my birthday was coming up this week to ask if they would perhaps send a message. Not because I did not want to be reminded of this day, I just thought of it too late to do so.

My siblings did contact me, my sister for example sent me a package with some new duvet covers, some cat toys and a card. And my brother contacted me to wish me a happy birthday and had previously asked if there was something I wanted for my birthday. (I would liked to have had an older or cheap laptop for internet use, alternatively either a new chair, a DVD set, or perhaps some SD cards to put stuff on)
And my aunt also contacted me to congratulate me.

Oh and I just notice that a number of people have left a message for me on Facebook. Really have to reply to them before I forget that again.
That is one of my worst habits, my forgetfulness and delaying things I am planning to do such as writing this message which got delayed because I got distracted by Youtube again.


How does this day feel?
Well I feel I am kind of in a daze to be honest like I have been these last couple of weeks.
It may have to do with how I am living my days these last years which are quite repetitive, mostly doing the same stuff over and over and not having a good day-night routine, but that is mostly because I don't know what to do with my life.
But I also have a big problem of the near future on my mind that is also really affecting me badly.
And more recently my cat Little Flame passed away and leaving a big hole at home.

It feels like a pretty regular day, one who like most of them I will probably quickly will forget about again other than perhaps feeling that it was rather a disappointment in general.

I know that days are what you make of them but that is one of my problems, I don't know what to make of days any more.


What would I like to be different?
Well for twenty-one years now and perhaps longer I feel now that I have accomplished nothing in my life, something that has given me bouts of severe depression from time to time to the point that I sometimes wish I could find the strength to finally end what I consider to be a pointless life.

I do have a number of ambitions I always wanted to pursue during my life such as;
-Being able to draw on a similar level of skill such as artists I admire.
-Being able to write. Well I do write from time to time but I mean write good (really having a good grasp of the written word) and know what I am writing about as I dislike pseudo intellectual, pseudo philosophical, and pseudo scientific nonsense. (well the last is not always a problem if it plays only a minor role or some flexibility is required to make an idea work)
-Being able to make computer games. I have reached this point that I would rather work on making a game than playing them as I have been become so disappointed in gaming in general but yet still feel a lot of passion for what it once meant to me.

A big reason why I have made little progress in any of these is my own lack of focus and discipline but also severe doubts and depression play a large role in this.

Almost every birthday these last five years I kind of hope that this will be the moment of significant change in my own development, that now a profound growth of character will be taking place, I get my thoughts straight and my goals are clear in my mind, and I push aside all my own nonsense that is holding me down or causing me to just make more excuses.

Some might say "Isn't it time then to give up on these ambitions?"
And then what? I already live a life in which I have difficulty with attaining these ambitions and it is honestly not that I have never though "Hey what else would interest me? What else do I find worthwhile to pursue?"
If anything it has only made me want to find out more what it is exactly that is holding me back and how I can overcome it, it is not just these ambitions but also a lot of other things I have difficulty with because my attention keeps jumping around.


So what I would have liked to have had most for my birthday, well other than being able to start my life over from the age of fifteen but with the knowledge of today, is being able to put more focus and discipline in my life and finally be able to deal with my doubts and achieve some degree of fulfilment that I so much desire.


I had wanted to write a bit on the previous birthday post I have posted here a year ago to talk if there had been any differences since then and how I felt that there were not any but at the moment I just can not put any thought into it (that problem I wrote about earlier).
perhaps it is also something I need to think about myself.
 
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