I'm glad this post exists because I mostly feel the same as OP. I play FO4 when I'm in the mood for an open-world shooter game because that is all it is (I don't bother with settlements at all cause it bores me). I was hoping FO4 would be another first-person(third person optional perspective) action role-playing game like FO3 and FNV and was very disappointed upon playing it to find out that even with Charisma 10 you'd never be able to talk enemies into a non-violent resolution. Other things like the broken Animal Friend perk (after being "tamed" animals turn hostile again after a while) underscored my disappointment. Now I refuse to buy any Bethesda game until it passes the "GOTY edition test" which means that it's been out long enough for modders to fix the shortcomings of Bethesda's game. Bethesda now just caters to the lowest common denominator (console gamers/fps game fans) so I decline to give them any more of my $$ until their "product" is on sale for 75% off. But that's just the opinion of someone who really likes post-apocalyptic, first-person perspective role-playing games.