I don't mind the strong female commanders. It's consistent with the lore and environment created.
The Disfavored commander clearly says that while she is the best fighter (due to technique), she would pick two men to be "the corner of her phalanx" (because those are the most difficult and dangerous positions, which need the most physically strong and skilled fighters).
(Edit: as for the weight of her armor, well, it's clearly magical?)
While Obsidian touted this as "mature" and "evil", it seems they tried to sidestep some subjects like rape. It's mentioned that the Scarlet Chorus is raping it's way through the countryside, but it appears that even in this "mature game" your character can't do the same. In some cases you're able to torture, but rape is left out as an option for you. I'm doing a lawful neutral playthrough now, but if I do an evil one (as promised by Obsidian), you'd at least expect rape to be an option here & there. You're able to conscript or wholesale slaughter entire villages, but implying you can use rape seems to be a no no so far. There's little more evil than raping your way through your enemies, I'd say.
Maybe I'm wrong, and it comes up later though.
Now that I think about it, prostitution seems weirdly absent as well. Though even one Disfavored does imply slaves are used for more than the usual "services".
The thing that most annoyed me so far, was a run in with a bunch of mercenaries. Their leader loudmouthed me, and I attacked him. Queue a cutscene where he runs away from me, past 2 of his guards and out of the map.
Euhm, I was standing in front of him, do you think I'd let him run off when I pick the [ATTACK] option in the conversation? If you're going to Deus Ex Machina my ass, at least cause a spell or something that knocks me prone.
The guards were absolute push overs.
The second most annoying thing is that in a lot of conversation options, you seem to lack the "loyalty to Kyros" option. You are Tunon's Fatebinder here to implement Kyros' law. Yet, when people go off the reservation you cannot tell them they are risking being branded as traitors and risk execution? Seems like they spent way more time trying to put in options to have people bribe you for certain rulings, but didn't really think about imposing Kyros' law at the highest echelons?
Is it at Least better then pillars of enternity?
Yes, but the combat still sucks badly and the squad AI makes really weird choices if you keep it enabled.
"Oh, I'm almost dead & surrounded? I better cast a sigil buff on a full health squad mate that's 10 meters further down."
Picking the right weapons is also a pain, since way too frequently the game tells you the weapon you're using is ineffective. If you're fighting some jerk with a bronze breast plate and exposed limbs and head, I doubt any dagger could be ineffective if you have half a brain.